10 PROVEN WAYS TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU

Everyone wants to be liked by others, everyone wants to feel appreciated and everyone wants to feel valued but only very few know that in this life, you only get in return what you've succeeded in giving out.

Do you wonder why there are some people who are like magnets - they seem to attract and get the attention of many people who they come across with and yet there are those whose presence seem to stir up dissension amongst others?
When it comes to issues regarding love, emotional security or being valued, emphasis needs to be placed on the actions taken rather than verbal assurances. You certainly don't assume that people like you because they say they do but you can be sure beyond doubts that they do when they portray certain traits.

Make a conscious decision today to make people like you by applying the things that you are about to learn now. I've put together and heartily 10 proven ways to make people like you. Make sure to read till the end.

1. DISPLAY A POSITIVE ATTITUDE AROUND PEOPLE

There's definitely no one at this time who is not faced with one challenge or the other. Everyone has a problem, whether little or large. Sometimes this challenges have a way of making us gloomy around people therefore we must learn to live beyond your circumstance.
There are many people who are of the attitude of letting everyone know when they are upset. If you're of such kind of attitude, be sure to have very few people who will like you. If you get angry at anyone or any situations, there are many ways you can ease yourself rather than throw yourself angrily at other people who are not associated with your anger. No one may see your pain but they see your attitude. There are those who have lost help from people who could have helped them in their misery but because of an unapproachable attitude, they lost it.

Nick Vujicic is a great inspiration to the world today and though he was born without arms or legs, he still has a way of reflecting power in his positive living.
Ask yourself this question, "If people act towards me the way I act towards them, will they like me?" If not, then make a change. Show some positive attitude and be loved.

"If people act towards me the way I act towards them, will they like me?"

2. CONVERSE WITH THEM IN THE AREAS OF THEIR INTERESTS

Those who have mastered the art of interaction with people will attest that to get people to speak openly to you, you must be interested in what they are interested in. There are no two people on earth who have walked together for a long time who have nothing in common - there surely must be a binding force. When getting to meet and know new people, we're often tempted to tell them all of our good qualities and all of the things with which we are interested in.

We really do not take time to ask them what they really are interested in. If you always discuss football games to a friend who is interested in politics, sooner or later you'll be left with no one but yourself to discuss with.
When we converse with people in the areas of their interests, we tend to get their attention. They will also become expressive - no one is shy to say the things they are really passionate about. You can experiment for yourself by talking to a guy about a lady he is really passionate of.

Another benefit of this is that you're given a rare opportunity and will have an inclination to change their perspective about life at will because they would have now become flexible to you. Since you have paid attention to their interests, they too will pay back the same.

3. KNOW WHAT AND WHEN TO SPEAK AS WELL AS WHEN TO BE SILENT

One of the most difficult things when it comes to human relations is knowing when to speak and when to be silent. There are many people who have ruined opportunities by speaking when they ought to have been silent and being silent when they should have spoken up.
There are people who have been swallowed up in guilt for not giving encouragement at the right time to a friend who later committed suicide. Others on the other side have said words intending to console a friend yet ended up hurting them.

It is important to know that you don't always have to speak because you have something to say. Learn to speak, not only in response to the words that you hear in a conversation, but learn also to condition your words based on the emotional atmosphere, level of understanding of the person whom you speak to, as well as many other factors you may want to consider.

Do you know that silence is a voice that can be heard and that people will appreciate you when you use it effectively and at the right time. All things said, make sure also to know what words to say when you speak - instead keep silent till you figure out the right words to say.
This may be a difficult part of making people like you but at the end it truly is worth mastering the art of knowing when and when not to speak.

Do you know that silence is a voice that can be heard and that people will appreciate you when you use it effectively and at the right time

4. DON'T BE TOO QUICK TO JUDGE

There's a difference between correction and judgment. You must learn not to pick on people's weaknesses and use it against them rather call them closely and admonish them as a father would do to his child. When people get into a fight or some sort of quarrel or disagreement, they normally have a propensity to speak about the other person's vulnerability with the aim of disarming them emotionally.

The moment you're urged by your emotion to speak ill of people, remember first to take a speculation on your own imperfections. As we have mentioned earlier, humans come with a box of faults. There is no person today who is flawless - not a single person. So it's paramount that you choose to look above their faults and pay attention to their favorable qualities.

5. ADMIT YOUR MISTAKES AND BE SINCERE ABOUT IT

We live in a proud world where almost no one accept their wrongs. People walk the road to a pit knowing fully well that they are on the wrong path but they would rather die than admit they are wrong. In such a world as this, the preciousness of being open about your mistake and wrongdoing is immeasurable. Anything scarce is usually valuable and it applies well in this case. There are many broken friendships and marriages that are a result of the unwillingness to accept faults.

There are yet many speakers who try to motivate others to get better by presenting themselves with a shield of perfection. They wade off anything that may present failure or negativity but little do they know that they are doing more worse than good. Since these speakers speak from a state of perfection, the audience mind's is unable to discern the steps that the speaker had taken to be great. Who is able to climb a ladder to the top of a building when the ladder is at the top of the building and above hands reach? No one!! The ladder must be on the floor but then should extend to the height intended to be reached.

We must learn to apologize when we make mistakes and we must do it sincerely - no one is perfect and we all make mistakes. People run away from those who present themselves as perfect and are without mistakes. Learn this and becomes people's choice.

6. HELP THEM GET SOMETHING DONE

Reaching out with a helping hand does not devalue you. Don't be swallowed up with the philosophy that when you help people, they tend to lose value for you, especially in the case of helping a younger person. Helping people get things done is one of the easiest way to create a lasting memory of yourself in people. They may forget the times you laughed together, they may forget the words you said to them but the acts of service you provided for them will undoubtedly not be forgotten. You can offer to clean their windows, help them with some difficult task or assist them in making a meal - just do anything that will make them happy.

There's a satisfaction that comes to you knowing that you're the reason why people are happy or are becoming better people. It makes you happy and a more likeable person. Don't wait to be asked for help - Offer a helping hand voluntarily.

There's a satisfaction that comes to you knowing that you're the reason why people are happy or are becoming better people.

7. LOOK OUT FOR THE POSITIVE TRAITS IN PEOPLE

The presidents of nations, the kings of kingdoms, the students in classrooms, the workers in their workplace and the beggar along the road have one thing in common - their humanity. No matter how great anyone is or can be, we remain human.
We let the positive attributes of people fade away while looking unto their negative attributes. We forget that just like ourselves, they too are human with faults.

If you want people to really like you, you will have to learn to focus on all the things that attribute good. Don't just imagine the good things, also tell them the good things they have done and what you believe they can do better. This is better off than repeatedly making known to them their mistakes.
List out all the good things they have done to you and make it known to them. Do it often and see the magic it does in making people more interested in you.

8. BE GENUINELY INTERESTED IN PEOPLE

I walked into a class where I met a boy reading his textbook. I walked up to him, looked at him and smiled. I asked for his name, told him mine and went further to commending him for sparing some time to read while others whirled away theirs in irrelevant activities. We spoke for a while and then I took a step to leave but he took me by surprise when he asked me what I really wanted from him.
"Nothing, I just love being around people and making them happy as much as I can", I answered.
I could see the awe in his face as he struggled to believe what I had just said. "So you want nothing from me", he must have pondered. I had to take another time reassuring him I needed nothing.

We exchanged contacts at the end of our blissful conversation and even until this day we still keep in touch. And though, that day was a memorable one, I felt uneasy knowing that people always had an unhealthy expectation to get in return what they give out. It is true that when you love, you should be loved and when you give you expect to receive - but the big question is, "What happens when you don't get loved and receive nothing in return?" Will you still love and share?

If you truly want people to like you, you will need to be genuinely interested in people and do it unconditionally. Genuine love can be felt, make someone feel the love that flows from the bosom of your heart.

9. IMPROVE YOURSELF DAILY

No one wants to be associated with one who has nothing beneficial to add to them. No financial value, no mental value, no spiritual value, no value whatsoever. They may get to like you because of your curly hair, well shaved beards or your oval shaped face but in the long run, all of those physical attributes will count for nothing.

If you want to get people to like you, then you must be intentional doing things that matter like getting a skill, improving your vocabulary, learning to dress well, getting organized as well as reading books to be knowledgeable in areas of your ignorance.

When you do this, you become like a magnet and cannot be done away with. The moment they think they have exhausted a portion of you, you rise again with a new and better version of yourself. Who will not like to have such person around them? Certainly no one. Therefore, to be liked by many, you will have to do away with your emotional affinity to your physical attributes - rather desire to build value intrinsically.

10. SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH THEM

There's no one who spends little or no time with something they like or are passionate about. When you spend time with friends, you can tell exactly what they like doing. You see the happiness written all over them as they get those things done. They oftentimes will talk about it from time to time. The same goes to the love for people - If you truly say that you like people, then you must be willing to spend quality time with them.

Spending quality time with people requires that you make the best use of the time you spend with people. Many are of the act of operating mobile devices when with a friend in a face to face conversation. You must learn to put your mind and energy in a conversation to make the best of it. Look for opportunities in the dialogue where your encouragement may be needful or your advice on a thing may be required. Seek to make every meeting with people a memorable one - it will require conscious effort.

Note that wasting your time talking about things you that don't matter is not the same as spending quality time with people. Learn to discern the difference so that you're not wasting time and thinking that you're making an effective use of it.

You can see that in all these things, you only get in return the things you give out. To simplify it, do what you would love others do to you.

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